I'm old enough to remember stories about popular TV personality Bishop Fulton Sheen, with his series "Life is Worth Living", attracting more prime time viewers than Milton Berle. With that invisible "angel" erasing his chalkboard, he said things like “Nothing ever happens in the world that does not happen first inside human hearts" and “We become like that which we love. If we love what is base, we become base; but if we love what is noble, we become noble.”
In a similar vein, this quote by Keith Yamashita came to my attention and I admire the simplicity:
How we spend our time is how we spend our days. How we spend our days is how our life goes. How our life goes determines whether we thought it was worth living.
To follow his logic backwards is to ask the question, How am I spending my time? What motivates me to do the things I'm doing? Am I wasting time or, worse, not paying attention to nutrition, exercise, meditation or other routines?
As a life coach, one of my initial conversations is about the REASONS for self-improvement. Is there a sense that something is wrong and needs fixing? Fine. But when someone feels that the something wrong is THEM, we have to do a little thought tweaking.
To do what is good for you is, for sure, to solve problems (over-eating, procrastination, disorganization). But what if there is a shift in the way you think... and you say to yourself: "I am doing me! I'm watching what I eat (or journalling or whatever) as an act of self-loving kindness... not so much to fix a problem or deal with an issue, but because it's the right, good, amazing thing to do for myself!"
As Leo Babauta writes:
Want to eat better? Focus on the joy of eating nourishing, whole, healthy food.
Want to exercise? Focus less on losing weight and more on the joy of moving your body, as a loving act.
Whatever you want to do, change the focus to doing something awesome for yourself: meditation, writing, journaling, decluttering, focusing on important work. They're all loving acts, and they can feel amazing as you do them.
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