Truth and Freedom

When I was living and working in East Harlem (NYC), I met many people who went to "the rooms", their way of describing the places that held Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. To understand what people were going through during their struggles with sobriety I picked up expressions that I soon found were also helpful outside "the rooms." Here are just a few:

  • A.A. is a self-help program that you can't do by yourself

  • Sometimes what happens is that "hurt people hurt people"

  • You'll only stop abusing alcohol when you're "sick and tired of being sick and tired"

  • The destiny of every alcoholic is to be "locked up, covered up or sobered up"

  • It (the program) works if you work it

  • One drink is too many and a thousand isn't enough

One phrase that is eminently applicable to any life is: "I am as sick as my secrets." As a Life Coach (or Behavior Redesigner), I know how freeing it is for people to live honest, open lives: if you never tell a lie you don't have to have a good memory.

What truths might you sometimes hide behind and why? If you would like to unburden your heart or merely share an issue that's holding you back, email or call me.


On a lighter note, recovering alcoholics were some of the finest people I met (and still know). Many of them have amazing outlooks on life given the calamities they had caused. They are also some of the funniest folks around. Here's a sample of their humor:

Me: My name is Matt, and I'm an alcoholic.
AAA: This is AAA, not AA.
Me: Yeah, I was just explaining how my car got in the lake.

What do you call an alcoholic that doesn't admit his addiction?
Jack Denials.

Why can’t alcoholics become lawyers?
They can’t pass the bar.

I come from a long line of alcoholics. My gene pool has a swim-up bar.

Alcoholics don't run in my family?
They stumble around and break stuff.

Why didn't the alcoholic become a comedian?  
Because he couldn't stand up.