There's a scene in the Academy Award-winning movie, Nomadland, when a woman explains her decision to live life by being nomadic- taking her motor home and moving around to see the country as she pleases, where she desires:
I worked for corporate America, you know, for twenty years. And my friend, Bill, worked for the same company, and he had liver failure. A week before he was due to retire, HR called him in hospice, and said, “Now, let’s talk about your retirement.” And he died ten days later, having never been able to take that sailboat that he bought out of his driveway. And he missed out on everything. And he told me before he died, “Just don’t waste any time, Merle. Don’t waste any time.” So I retired as soon as I could. I didn’t want my sailboat to be in the driveway when I died. So, yeah. And it’s not. My sailboat’s out here in the desert.
Now, we here at Alive 'n Well do not condone living hedonistically nor thoughtlessly. But we heartfully applaud anyone who lives life fully, intentionally and lovingly... especially with abandon. And when doing so benefits others, all the better!
Lucille Ball once said, "I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I hadn't done."
Studies indicate that fear of failing outranks regret, but that's not true when you talk to someone facing death. As Brian Clark writes in Further, the wise elderly and terminally ill confess that they wish they had taken more chances. "After all, when you're facing death, you're acutely aware that this life is not a dress rehearsal. And yet, we are often the biggest impediment to our own happiness by clinging to self-limiting beliefs."
At the end of this first week of the sixth month of 2021, there's no room for past regrets or guilt. My hope is that we have acknowledged mistakes we've made in the past and that we can use them as lessons to become kinder, gentler, more mature people.