Honey As Vinegar

A while ago, we bought some honey for tea. I noticed that the label proclaims: "Raw and Unfiltered." A google search reports that these two qualities of honey make it:

  • a good source of antioxidants

  • full of antibacterial and antifungal properties

  • a phytonutrient powerhouse

  • an aid for digestive issues

However, in conversations online, on the phone or at the checkout line, "raw and unfiltered" may lead to "foot-in-mouth" disease. Quick comebacks might score verbal points for speedy wit, but rarely do they reflect the peace that is our natural state. How do I know peace is our natural state?


Think about the last time you had a moment of inspiration, joy, beauty or bliss: a serene lake, the colors of a twilight sky, a baby's smile, the quiet on a trail. These encounters touch us deeply precisely because what we are taking in from outside is mirroring what we feel and know deep within. It's our native disposition.


T.S. Eliot writes in Little Gidding:

“We shall not cease from exploration

And the end of all our exploring

Will be to arrive where we started

And know the place for the first time."


There are "aha" moments with my coaching clients when they realize that most of the questions they were asking had been answered throughout their lives in varying circumstances. Their native instinct lets them "arrive" home to their inner wisdom.


At first, to filter what we say or post might seem inauthentic or even controlling. But after some practice, the filters become part of the best that we are. We will rarely second guess our intentions and, better still, our foot won't get caught in our mouths again.