Do What You Love/Learn to Love What You Do

Singer/Songwriter Marc Anthony is quoted as saying: "If you do what you love, you'll never work a day in your life."


While I believe this is true, it's not the experience for some of the people I know and coach. From teachers to real estate agents, in sales or retail, working from home or commuting twice a day, there is a lot of dissatisfaction out there when it comes to work.


But here's the thing: some of my coaching clients will reveal to me that they not only despise their job, they are unhappy with their homelife or their health or their relationships.


It makes me think that it is not what they do to earn money nor the muscle ache nor the broken marriage... perhaps the common denominator in all areas of the person's life might be the person themself.


Which reminds me of a story:

There once was a monastery that was very strict. Following a vow of silence, no one was allowed to speak at all. But there was one exception to this rule. Every ten years, the monks were permitted to speak just two words. 

After spending his first ten years at the monastery, one monk went to the abbot. "It has been ten years," said the abbot. "What are the two words you would like to speak?"

"Bed... hard..." said the monk.

"I see," replied the abbot.

Ten years later, the monk returned to the abbot's office. "It has been ten more years," said the abbot. "What are the two words you would like to speak?"

"Food... stinks..." said the monk.

"I see," replied the abbot.

Yet another ten years passed and the monk once again met with the abbot who asked, "What are your two words now, after these ten years?"

"I... quit!" said the monk.

"Well, I can see why," replied the abbot. "All you ever do is complain."

So let's continue. What can one do if there is bitterness and discontent all around? And how do we love what we do so that we can do what we love?


1. Acceptance

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