Beginning Again

I can imagine that there are some people who have had enough of seeing New Year's resolution posts on Twitter, Facebook or here! As a Life Coach this is the air that I breathe, but I can understand how tiring and cliché the phrase or concept might sound: "New Year/New You."

"After all," you say, "there's nothing wrong with the 'old' me."

And if that's the case, good for you and those with whom you interact.

For the rest of us, however, there is wonderful, rarely nagging, but persistently motivating voice within us that whispers, This is YOUR life and you're not dead yet. Sometimes it even shouts, Your decisions and actions today will change what happens to each tomorrow.

Most of us who come from a Judeo-Christian spirituality do not believe in reincarnation. And yet, at the beginning of each year (and at certain liminal moments such as weddings, sobriety commitments, near death experiences, etc) there is the invitation to begin again... to be born again... to start anew.... fresh.

In preparing for this blog, I read that instead of new year goals we should commit ourselves to new year skills. For example, in place of losing ten pounds by Valentine's Day, concentrate on developing the skill of drinking more water or consuming more vegetables or not eating between meals or no food after 7pm or walking one more mile a day.

If you are serious in wanting to develop a new skill, perhaps you could try reflexive thinking. Rather than thoughtlessly consuming data/opinions/information, ask these questions of yourself:

  • Do I align with what I'm seeing/hearing? Does it ring true to me?

  • Will this information make a difference in my life or is it merely gossip?

  • If what I'm learning about [person/place/thing] is a fact, what can I do about it, if anything?

  • Is the information coming in supporting or assailing my mental health?