Accepting What Is... mostly 🤪

There was a tradition in my family on Sundays. After going to Church, we'd come home and my father would cook us delicious breakfast for lunch: either pancakes or french toast. And always accompanying his cooking would be music at high volume coming from the Grundig stereo.

Gifted with a good voice, Dad would be crooning to Born Too Late" by the Ponyi-Tails or "How Much is That Doggie in the Window" by Patti Page or "Zing! Went the Strings of My Heart" by the Coasters. You remember those songs, right?


One of the tunes which would get us all swinging and swaying was Doris Day's Que Sera Sera, with the words:

Que sera, sera
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours to see
Que sera, sera
What will be, will be

Now, as a life coach I'm constantly reminding people not to fight with reality... because reality always wins! You can name what's in front of you as a problem, an obstacle or an enemy, but it is real. And yet...


To accept what is does not mean that you don’t participate in life, that you don’t take action as needed. True acceptance does not equal resignation or putting up with things that are not okay. Why?


We are agents of change. If something is not working for you, if the way you are living is not aligning with your values and priorities, what are you waiting for? Yes, the future might not be "ours to see", but we can change what happens in the future by making significant corrections in our present.


I don't know what that means for you. I just know that reality is not a threat; on the contrary, it can be a messenger that reminds you to write YOUR story going forward.